#FamiliesUnderPressure has been created by the NHS and King’s College London to help families struggling during #COVID19. The tips are based on decades of research and rooted in the experience of NHS teams.
In this video we share tips on how to limit conflict.
How do you limit conflict in your home? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
These tips have been formulated by Professor Andrea Danese and colleagues at the Maudsley CAMHS Trauma, Anxiety and Depression clinic. They are drawn from Cognitive Behavioural-Therapy (CBT) principles used to help young people who experience anxiety or depression.
Narrated by Holly Willoughby
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Parents can play an important role in reducing conflict by using simple and common-sense strategies. When families are living under pressure it’s easy for this to affect everyone’s behaviour– frustrated and/or worried children are more likely to react negatively when things don’t go their way
Some children are naturally more likely to be more upset if things don’t go their way and find it harder to calm down. This might be especially the case for children with autism or ADHD for example.
There are things that parents can do to help reduce these reactions.
Try as best you can to keep your children occupied.
Create routines and make a plan with your children for each day. If plans change give clear explanations why this is the case and reminders when things will be different. Many children react badly to (negative) surprises.
Try to avoid including tasks that you know your child will find frustrating, upsetting, provoking or too exciting, based on your knowledge of what has happened in the past and try to get to understand your child’s strengths and weaknesses better.
If your child is still starting to get upset with something (or someone) you can nip the problem in the bud by using distraction. For instance, talk about something they enjoy or find funny.
If your child still really works themselves up into a state, create a safe space where you can take them to calm down, ensuring you give them time and keep an eye on them.
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